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Stop Trying to Fix Him—He’s Not a DIY Project

Sis, he’s not going to magically turn into Prince Charming. What you see is exactly what you get.

by relationshipguru
May 31, 2025
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Stop Trying to Fix Him—He’s Not a DIY Project

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One of the biggest traps we fall into as women is believing that with just enough love, patience, and “swooning power,” we can turn a toxic, inconsistent man into the partner of our dreams. We think we can “upgrade” him—like he’s some broken piece of furniture we can sand down, repaint, and proudly show off later.

Let me be clear: you are not Bob the Builder, and he is not your project.

How many times have we said it or heard it?

“I like him… I mean, he’s always late, but whatever. We can fix that later.”

No, sis. You can’t.

Being late isn’t just poor time management—it’s a lack of respect for your time. That’s a message. And when someone shows you they don’t value your time from the start, don’t convince yourself it’ll get better with love, attention, or more dates.

Real talk: the man who wants you and respects you will be five minutes early with the passenger door already open. Yes, chivalry is alive—it just doesn’t live at the house of someone who doesn’t respect you.

Here’s the hard truth: most men will not change unless they want to. It doesn’t matter how good your energy is, how bomb your personality is, or how fine you look walking in the room—if he’s not ready, he’s not changing.

And men don’t operate like us. They don’t meet a woman, clock a flaw, and stick around thinking, “Maybe I’ll inspire her to work harder” or “Maybe I can mold her into what I want.”

No. They keep it moving. So why are you settling and convincing yourself you can transform him?

The only person you’re fooling is you.

Your standards and your value system are not meant to be compromised for someone’s potential. You are not in middle school anymore—“he’s cute” just isn’t enough. If you want a man who’s driven, responsible, affectionate, loyal—then wait for that man. Not the one who’s texting you at midnight, “yo you up?”

And if something is a deal breaker for you—whether it’s his work ethic, the way he talks to you, or even his hygiene—stand on that.

The man who’s meant for you won’t make you lower your standards. He’ll match them.

There is someone out there who will see your worth, no convincing required. Someone who’ll go the extra mile just to be in your presence. But you won’t find him while playing therapist, life coach, and rehab center to someone who refuses to grow.

So please, queen—save your energy.

He doesn’t need fixing. You just need to let him go.

Keep your peace, keep your power, and most of all—keep your standards.

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