The Fly-Out Rule: “An Unwritten Contract” By: Milagros Reyes @milagreee

I believe men are very frivolous when it comes to just throwing away money. If it isn’t a sure bet, why take the chance. Men who have a lot of money other wise known as ballers, sometimes will offer to fly out a female to where ever he is. He might just take you on an all paid vacation, he might just pay for your flight and hotel, wine and dine you, take you out, all on his dime. The question is do you have to put out if you accept any of this?

So the baller you’re dating (or not) tells you that he’s going to fly you out to wherever he is. Whenever a man, baller or not, flies you anywhere, you better believe that this man expects that you’re going to put out. Its almost like an unwritten rule that a man expects to get some when he shells out the cash for your flight. Personally, I prefer to be in a committed relationship before sleeping with anyone so I would never take that offer unless it is a committed relationship. I have asked this question to multiple men of all shapes and sizes and I always get the same answer. “Hell yeah, she better give it up if i’m paying for her to come out here.” When a man makes an “investment” of this kind, he isnt doing it just to show you the world. He isn’t doing it for a hug at the end of the weekend. He expects you to put out. Like I said, he’s investing in you. Now, i’m sure he also wants to have a good time with you, and enjoy your company but the unwritten rule still stands. “I fly her out, I’m getting some.’

There is nothing wrong with a woman who uses this paid trip to see the man that she wants to see. The issue presents itself when you feel nothing for this guy but you really want that trip. The expensive dinners, the clubs, the VIP treatment he might be able to give you.

I believe that men are very calculating and do not like to spend their money irrationally so the fact that he is willing to fly you out and pay for everything, pretty much puts the two of you in a unwritten contract that he will be getting some. Now, if you have no interest in this man but still want the trip you’re going to have to give him what it is he wants. I’m not sure exactly how you might feel about yourself after but, if you’re okay with that “trade,” more power to you.