The Other Woman: Put Yourself First By: @milagreee

Ah yes, the other woman. The devil in disguise and or the homewrecker, you pick. Some pretend that they dont know, others know and make up excuses on why exactly they stay with another woman’s man. If you find yourself in that predicament, the kind in which you have allowed yourself to be in love with someone else’s man or maybe you tell yourself that you are just using this man for whatever perks he might be able to offer you, please disengage. Here are a few reasons why you should, if not for the family you’re hurting but for yourself.

Maybe you tell yourself that you are the one in charge of this relationship, and that you use him. What do you care about his wife and kids at home as long as your bills are getting paid? As long as your car note is paid off? As long as you’re getting satisfied sexually? So what? There are no strings, aside from the one’s leaving your hands and reaching into his wallet. Fact of the matter is, he is using you. He apparently has enough money not to leave a money trail when he is financing your life. He is getting laid at home and still getting it from you. Money might be a commodity to him and he’s found a way to have two women at the same damn time.

Maybe you are in love and your head is filled with illusions of the two of you living together, and permenantly being together. Maybe you think of the great times you’ve had together and it keeps you going. Maybe you permenantly live through the images of the beach that he took you to on the weekend that his wife took the kids to see her parents. Maybe you have visions of past concerts, live events, endless hotel rooms, breakfast in bed. All of these things keep you going and you arent allowing yourself to see the bigger picture. He goes home. You’re a thrill for him. He will always go home. Home is where his wife is. It isnt in the expensive hotel that he rented for a night. Think of all the times “something came up” or “work got in the way.” Think of the fact that you cant reach your man after a certain hour. How is that fair to you at all?

Perhaps he fills your closet with beautiful items that you just cant resist, material items that you would never other wise be able to afford. Maybe that is what makes you feel like he really loves you and he’s going to fufill his promise of leaving his wife for you. You start making excuses for him not being there when you need him because you know what you signed up for the minute you “coveted your neighbors husband” and have no right to complain. Maybe because he has changed you from the Monday girl to the Saturday night girl you think he’s getting serious about you. You’ve stopped looking for another man because you want to show him that you are loyal to him. You have cut off most of your friends because you either 1. didnt tell them who you were dating, or 2. you told them and they judged you.

The bottom line is this doesnt end well for you. You are the other woman and he wont leave his wife for you. Ever. Period. If he does, and decides he wants to be with you, please realize one thing- you keep them how you got them. If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.