The P.O.R.N. Method for Putting Spice Back in The Boom Boom Room – blogged by: @proudlylauren

Did you know that 56% of all adults claim to be unhappy with their sex life? According to a study by Lee Byron, not only is that true, but 28% of relationships end because of a loss of interest… I don’t know about you but I don’t have time to lose a relationship because of bad sex and lost interest; accordingly, I created the PORN method to add spice back into the bedroom, and avoid becoming a part of those statistics.

Prepare (1) :How can you have a spicy sex life when everything surrounding you is boring? Boring hair, boring nails, boring look, boring boring boring. Take some time to add more spice in your life- try a new wig, a new fiery red lipstick, reinvent your lingerie collection, add sexy costumes to the wardrobe, pick up a new sensual perfume etc. This preparation will make it easier to relax and be confident with yourself once you take the spice into the bedroom. Imagine his shock when you walk in with cascading hair and a sexy cheer number, he’ll be standing at attention. SALUTE!

Observe: Overtime, when we’re with someone for a while, we begin to unintentionally forget the things that turn our significant on and off. We begin to assume that because they are with us, they like any and everything that we do, simply because it’s us. But the truth is everybody has their own sexual ticks; things they really like, and things they only do because they don’t want to be mean. Observe these ticks throughout your sex life. If when you kiss him right behind his ear, he gets goose bumps, make a mental note to kiss him behind his ear more often. If he flinches when you try to suck his toes, maybe he’s just not that into it, mentally erase that idea. Ultimately you want to observe, and re-familiarize yourself with his sexual ticks, and remind him that you’ll gladly perform them.

Research: Have you seen all those categories on porn websites? I mean, there is everything you can find, ranging from threesomes to foot fetishes. Just like all of our needs, our sexual needs are constantly evolving as well. Do some research on those sites with your lover, reenact a porn that you both like, venture into never before seen categories, and explore something that you would’ve never tried. The possibilities are limitless.

Negotiate: What happens if your lover has a dominatrix fetish, but full PVC shiny body suits sticking to unimaginable places, doesn’t quite turn you on. Don’t just toss the entire idea; there are other elements of acting as dominatrix that still provides the experience without the PVC suit: such as displaying extreme control, using toys etc. The point is, negotiate with your lover; respect their boundaries, and work around them.

Bottom Line: Don’t join the 56% of miserable, sex deprived people, keep things spicy and remember: better sex means a better bond.

  (1) Prepare  : Preparation also means taking care of personal hygiene before attempting to add spice. Get a wax, a mani and pedi, groom yourself, make sure all of the details are taken care of. This would seem like common sense, but you’d be surprised.