Three’s a Crowd … Threesomes and Relationships

Ok, so let me insert my disclaimer here:
No, I’ve never participated in a threesome and what you are about to read is my personal opinion on allowing a third party to join you and your main squeeze.

In my relationships, I always aim to please … It’s the only time i become submissive, turning into an animal with a hunger only he can satisfy. I’ve entertained the idea of adding another bitch to the party, simply because I’m aware of the fantasies of my men, thats my job right? But the fact of the matter is, I have impossible standards. I have a grocery list of shit that i know he’d never find in a shorty to bring to me… I’m sure that this is how most women play the game. We agree to it to shut him up and “keep hope alive”, so to speak. It’s a game, just like everything else in a functional relationship.

Now what if he does find an acceptable candidate? So the deal is sealed, then what? Then you have to deal with the after effects of your one night rendezvous. I asked my Instagram followers for their opinion and one of my female followers shared her experience. At first, her comment was very short and sweet, “Don’t do it”. I asked her why and she went on tell tell me that after doing it once, her live in boyfriend started wanting the threesomes more than wanting sex with just her. After the blow up between the two, when the dust settled, the boyfriend ended up living with the third wheel.

This is a prime example of what they mean when they say, “Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile”. As crazy as it sounds, with things like this, i could have foreseen this shit happening BEFORE it hit the fan. A modern day woman, like myself, who wants to keep her man happy, opens the floodgates by allowing a third party, ends up with water damage the insurance company won’t cover. Unless you’ve established from the beginning that this is the type of relationship your into, neither party can just go “hey it’s $2 Tuesday again … Let’s have a threesome”. Who’s to blame? I’ll leave that up to my readers to decide.

Before you go pointing fingers at the boyfriend, let me tell you what a few of my male followers had to say that shocked me. They made it clear that for them a threesome doesn’t happen in a committed relationship. Its something on their bucket list, but not something they want to share with someone they have deep rooted feelings for. So while a woman has this grand plan to spoil her man, some guys see the action as a giant VOID on furthering the relationship. The lack of communication causes friction and turmoil in the union.

I laughed reading the comments under my Instagram post. A lot of women were like, “Hell no! I’m not sharing my man!” I get that aspect, I really do! In the same token though, I’m going to do whatever it takes to make him happy and vice versa. Boundaries, limitations, rules, and regulations have to be set to ensure that no lingering issues and emotions occur. The key to any successful relationship (romantic or otherwise) is healthy communication! I can tell you from experience that if you don’t express to your significant other exactly what is acceptable, envelopes will be pushed, chances will be taken, and someone will end up hurt. I know some things seem like common sense, like after the threesome, no further relationships will be established, but if it’s not said out loud to your partner, you leave a gray area… And that is where the bullshit produces itself. So where does this leave you?

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