Ladies, how many times have we gotten that urgent call from our besties crying, upset, and distraught about their relationship? As a friend, it doesn’t matter the time of day, as long as we are there for them during their time in need as a listening ear or advice.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with giving advice to your girls, but all advice isn’t good advice. Giving your girl bad advice will either cause tension within your friendship or leave her even more pissed than before she talked to you. To leave you with a sound mind, we come compiled a list of tips to avoid while giving your bestie advice.
Don’t Tell Her to Break Up With Her Man– One thong I’ve learned over the years is to never tell them to leave their significant other. Let them decide whether or not they want to tell deal with his lies. Now, there is nothing wrong with telling your girl she deserves so much more than the lies and constant frustration. Telling your girl to leave her man could possibly lead her to resenting you or even blaming you for telling her leave him. Just be that listening ear she needs!
Don’t get in the middle of their conflict– It’s only natural for you to protect your best friend, especially when someone is not treating them right. After a late night cry from your bestie, it’s a natural instinct to want to confront her boyfriend and tell him all the ways he’s hurt your best friend, but trust me no good can come from that. You can give her all the advice in the world but it’s up to her whether or not she’ll actually listen. Once or if all is forgiven, you may not be welcomed, especially if you were bashing him along with his bae.
3. Seek Revenge– Revenge is never the solution to anything. It may feel good for the moment, but flattening his tires or busting his windows out, doesn’t mean he’ll stop cheating. The worst revenge is getting under someone new. That’s the kind of headache and pain no one wants to deal with. Instead, encourage her to calm down, and think things through rationally, before aimlessly reacting.
4. Don’t Encourage Your BF To Confront Him Right Away– There is nothing smart about confronting a situation in the middle of blind rage. So don’t tell her to confront him right away, or egg her on to start an argument. Again, encourage her to take some time to think things through and come up with a proper solution.
We have to remember that we can’t act off of emotions and allow the love you have for BF cloud your judgement. What would you add to the list?
