Ballerific Relationships: When Your Dream Man Isn’t Really A Catch

Some people spend the majority of their lives looking for the man of their dreams. They have a whole list of traits from “he makes six figures a year” to “he says I’m beautiful even with my bonnet on” just to meet him and realize maybe they should have set their dreams higher.  Now a “dream man” could mean different things for different people, but what happens when you find yours and he still doesn’t add up to much?

Could you overlook your man being broke if he had other endearing qualities like noticing when you switch up your hair or doesn’t mind cooking dinner and being domestic from time to time?  What if your man was financially set for the rest of this life and was the perfect family man but ended up doing a decade in the feds? How do you decide which qualities to overlook because they don’t outweigh others?

Do you have a little voice in your head that says “But he is a good man Savannah” every time you try to weigh out the cons and pros?  And do you take into consideration that maybe the dream guy that you thought you wanted at 25 isn’t the same as the dream guy I wanted at 35? What if your career take off and your ideal dream guy doesn’t add up to where you ended up in life? Look at Tina Knowles for example. She spent decades married to her dream man, just to divorce him and remarry to someone who offers her something completely different. Do you think there is more then one dream man out there for you?

Then we have women like Phaedra Parks and Yandy Smith. Phaedra married the man of her dreams and had two beautiful kids with him just to file for divorce as soon as he went to jail. Yes, he wasn’t a catch to most before they got married due to his past criminal background but he had to fulfill enough on her checklist for her to ignore that. Then you have Yandy Smith, who is in a similar situation with her man but decides to ride for him even harder before he checks into jail because she might think that’s the best she is going to get so she might as well deal with it.

Have you ever been in the situation where your dream man isn’t really a catch after all? And if he isn’t, do you make him one or do you just settle for what you do have?