Why Is The Term Baller Offensive? : blogged by @niksofly

I don’t know what is more perturbing, social media or the logic that some use when on social media. It is quite baffling how insecurities and the lack of exposure can warp the perception or interpretation of something. This seems to occur more frequently with the term “BALLER”. I have no clue what is so offensive about those six letters, but anytime the word is used in conversation or writing, the fury from The Committee To Struggle For Eternity (TCTSFE) is released.  I have never met a “BALLER” that objected to the label nor one that didn’t appreciate the “be discrete, elevate yourself and don’t abuse their kindness” advice that I gave in the “How Not To Lose A Baller” post [which can be applied to any relationship].  It is just something about those six letters that removes all sensibility and replace it with animosity.  HMMM … I wonder why.

Not really. The obvious is insecurities from both men and women. [Yeah, I said it]. It’s always a person with questionable financial standing that seems to object the most.  And while their luxury car notes , upscale apartment leases and couture labels make them feel like they are Ballers (or in a position to comment), that debt-to-income ratio and  failing credit score contradicts the aforementioned. So from the segment that wants more out of life than three hots and a cot, we need for you,TCTSFE, to hush. Women are extremely guilty of this as well. They act as if there is some pride in struggling. There is no award or honor in that. Building is one thing. Struggling is another. You struggle when only one person in the relationship has the gall to want more out of life than what society has prescribed. You build when both parties have that gall. I often wonder why is it okay for men to encourage their sons to find women that exhibit qualities conducive to great familial structure, but if women tell their daughters to find men whom are great providers, a cardinal sin has just been committed? Isn’t provision essential to said structure? You wouldn’t encourage your son to marry whore so why encourage your daughters to marry poorly? It strikes me as if there is some  list in which we are to date from. If so, it is very hypocritical. We can choose to date whomever we want based on aesthetic values which contribute nothing to our well beings and survival, but the moment someone says, “Hey, I want a financially free person” it is a problem. A good looking face has never paid the mortgage, but Benjamin (Franklin) and Ulysses (Grant) has and will continue to do so. And before someone chimes in with “People need to get it on their own”, may I ask were you so kind to remind your kinfolk of this adage when taxpayers were supporting their children ? (I’ll wait. And no I’m not against social services.) Who is to say that the individuals wanting BALLERS can’t get it on their own?  Maybe they want their equal.

It is my theory that insecurity fuels this apprehension to the word BALLERS. The possibility that someone else may acquire something that others can not is what sends social media into an uproar.  We can see BALLERS as role models and individuals to aspire to be like, but we can not date nor marry them. They are great for modleing our lives after, but let’s not get carried away with actually making them a part of our day – to – day.  My question is this, what do you tell those that are (for all intents and purposes) qualified to date a BALLER? Do you discourage or encourage them? And by what measurements do we qualify a person to date a BALLER ?  I say do as you please. I know I didn’t sit through under grad and graduate school to date Billy who only  aspiration is  to stunt on negros with the latest Buscemis. I can’t supply the table and the dinner. 

-Niko Rose