Why Some Men Hate For Women To Have Standards

I recently made a comment on social media encouraging women to aim for men with 401k and stock options. As obvious as this would sound, you wouldn’t believe how many men actually were angered by this post. One guy even went as far as to say I was encouraging gold digging. Encouraging gold digging? By saying a woman should aim for a man with financial stability instead of a bum dude who doesn’t care about his financial future? If that’s gold digging so be it! I got to thinking though, why is it that some men get so angry when it comes to women having standards? How come every time a woman wants better for her mate she is labeled a gold digger, even though she never mentioned wanting him solely for his money or not having her own?

I came to the conclusion that it is a couple of things, one possibility is that they are broke bums themselves. Listen, any man who meets the standards of being financially stable will not feel a certain way about women wanting men of that criteria. Why? Because they know that they are the desired man that these women want. You never hear Ballers talking about gold diggers. In fact, Ballers enjoy the attention they get from women now that they have money. You don’t have to ask a Baller to spend money on you, they just do. The only men who throw out the “Gold Digger” title are men who don’t have any gold to dig. Frankly they are MAD! Jealous, bitter and MAD! Think about it — if you were tall, dark and handsome and someone told every woman in America to marry a tall, dark and handsome man, would you complain? No, because you fit the criteria of a desirable man. So, of course if I say “Ladies, go out there and find a man with a retirement plan, a savings account and stock options” a man who has any or all of those things would not complain. The only men who would complain are the men who don’t have those things because they feel they are being shunned.

In all honesty, you aren’t being shunned, you’re being encouraged to do better. You are afforded the same 24 hours in your day as the next man and what you choose to do with your 24 hours is entirely up to you. If you can’t find a job with good benefits, you should focus more on that and less on finding a place to lay your penis tonight. I don’t work the fry station at Burger King so excuse me for not wanting my man to work the fries either. Is it gold digging to want someone who is capable of providing? Absolutely not! The only men who think so are the men who are incapable of providing in the first place. They’re the men who are content with being bums and find it unfair that want them to actually get off of their mother’s couch and do something with their lives.

This leads me into my next point. Another reason I think some men dislike women with standards is because so many men don’t have standards of their own. So many men will wife a chick who lives in her grandmother’s basement, doesn’t work and sleeps on a mattress on the floor as long as her a** is fat and her hair is long. They’re okay with that. In fact, they buy her a few pairs of shoes and a purse and feel like they’ve upgrade her. For whatever reason because their standards are so low they feel that women should have standards as low as theirs. Well honey, I’d hate to break it to you but that is not the case. Women, grown women, have every right to want better for themselves and in turn, better for their mates. If you want to date a bummy female, as a man that is your prerogative. If I work my butt off so that my mattress stays off the floor and my bills stay paid, I have every right to want a man that matches my hustle.

The word “Gold Digger” gets thrown around far too much by people who don’t even know what it means. I’ve come to realize that the people who throw the word out the most are broke, unambitious and miserable men who are afraid that once women wise up, they’ll be left out in the cold alone. Well, I’m here to say, that isn’t my problem.