Willow Smith talked about being polyamorous on Wednesday’s episode of the Facebook Watch show Red Table Talk. Willow, 20, co-hosts the show with her mother, Jada Pinkett Smith, and her grandmother Adrienne “Gammy” Banfield Norris.
When asked by her mother how she decided to explore being polyamorous, Willow said, “With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that’s what everyone around you says is the right thing to do. So I was like, how can I structure the way that I approach relationships with that in mind?”
“Also, doing research into polyamory, the main reasons why monogamous relationships — or why marriage, why divorces happen — is infidelity,” she added.
Pinkett Smith told Willow that when she first told her about her decision, she supported her.
“When you were like, ‘Hey, this is my get down,’ I was like, ‘I totally get it,'” her mother told her. “Wanting to set up your life in a way that you can have what it is that you want, I think anything goes as long as the intentions are clear. You know what I mean?”
But Gammy seemed to have a hard time understanding her granddaughter’s position, saying, “For somebody like me, it feels like it’s really all just centered around sex.”
Then she opened up that it was something she had previously considered also.
“Even outside of the counseling that you get from your pastor before you get married, ’cause most people that get married, you know, will get counseling from their pastors because there is a religious aspect to it, a God aspect to it, Jada,” Gammy said. “And we had a deep conversation about, what does this mean to us? What do we wanna create for ourselves? And we actually talked about polyamory, and was that something that we wanted to explore? We had that conversation.”
Willow assured her grandmother that it’s not so much about the sex for her. She revealed that she is the only polyamorous person in her friend group — and has the least amount of sex.