You Want To Be A Bride, But Are You Ready To Be A Wife? – blogged by: @thebuzzwithb

Your wedding day. The day you’ve dreamed of since you were a little girl. You’ve already reserved bridesmaid spots for all of your besties and have mentally locked in the color scheme. The details of the decor are clear in your imagination, from the centerpieces that will adorn the tables of the reception to the petals the flower girl will sprinkle before you along your path. You have your dream dress picked out and have envisioned yourself walking down the aisle to a teary eyed groom who is so in awe of your beauty that he can barely contain his emotions. A magical day full of perfection and blissful sentiments that you just cannot wait for.

It’s a dream so many of us have – the day we get to be a bride.

But what’s next? After the sun sets on that monumental day, and you have officially made the instantaneous graduation from bride to actual wife, what now? You’ve said your vows with full conviction in front of all your family and friends and now it’s time to actually put those words in to action… for the rest of your entire life.

I used to think I was 100% ready to be married and wanted a husband more than anything. I thought that saying “I do” washed away every trial and tribulation and that my knight in shining armor and I would live happily ever after (Thanks, Disney). Now that I’m older and real life has smacked me dead in my face, I’ve realized there is a major difference between fantasizing about being a bride and actually being a wife. There is so much work to be done emotionally, mentally, and financially on the other side of the “I do’s” to successfully merge two lives together for all eternity.Your life, your money, even your name is no longer your own.  Every decision you make must be a joint decision. In everything you do, you must consider the thoughts and feelings of your now husband. Your life is now his life, too.

In all honestly, it’s a little scary. Definitely worth it for the right one, but a little scary nonetheless.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the glitz, glam, and excitement of wanting to be a bride, but are you truly ready for the life-long labor it takes to be a wife? Ladies, we stay armed and ready with a list of requirements, qualifications, prerequisites, terms and agreements that our future husbands must meet, but what about our wifely duties? It’s more than cooking and cleaning. What does it take to successfully go from blushing bride to wonderful wife?