Tis the season to be jolly, but for some people the holidays come with a few tears. December 25th is a true test of whether the person you are dating is really invested. If someone tells you they do not celebrate Christmas, it is fair to let them know it matters to you and that you would like it acknowledged.
Plenty of people have a story about a holiday gift that told them exactly where they stood. One of our favorites involves a perfume box set that turned out to be one of several identical sets, which made it pretty clear the giver was handing out the same present to more than one person. Sometimes the signs are right there in front of you.
Here are some signs you might not be the one this Christmas:
1. He disappears. If you do not hear from him at all on Christmas Day, that tells you something.
2. He does not show up until 11pm. Late night only plans on a holiday suggest you are an afterthought.
3. He starts a fight on the 23rd over something petty, so there is a ready excuse for skipping a gift.
4. He complains that Christmas is too commercial and says he refuses to get pulled into shopping.
Made to order and shipped to your door.
5. He insists Christmas is only for the kids.
6. All you get is a Merry Christmas group text.
7. He never asks what you want for Christmas.
8. He has kids and plans to spend Christmas Eve at their mother’s house so they can wake up with him. This one can be tricky, since spending time with his children is a good thing. Trust your gut about the rest of the picture.
9. He goes out of town and does not invite you.
10. You call him and someone else answers, and the story he gives you does not add up.
Look out for these signs, and feel free to add your own in the comments. Merry Christmas!
