“I Refuse To Go Over and Beyond For A Man That’s Going To Cheat Anyway,” Says Ms. Lonely

I’m sure you read the title and instantly thought, “wtf!” Now that I have your attention, I want to talk to my ladies about men that cheat.

Ladies, has someone in your life made you mad or upset due to their cheating ways? Did you stay after finding out? Are you still with him? If you answered yes to the questions, then you’re part of the problem.

How can you be upset at the man that continuously cheats on you, yet you stay? I know that you love him but you have to learn how to love people from a distance. No need to stay in the relationship knowing that you’re unhappy. Let it go!

Although it has been said that all men cheat, that particular statement may not be true in your situation. As Momma always said, “People will only do what you allow,” so if your man is actually afraid to lose you, he won’t do things that will make you leave. But, if he knows you’re going to stay anyway, what’s the point? Either way, if you decide to forgive him for his wrongdoings, do that.

No need to keep throwing it up in his face, either you’re going to forgive him or not. Don’t dwell on the past.

But, if you decide to leave, leave for good. Leave all of that baggage behind because you don’t want to carry that hurt into every relationship afterwards. Don’t let a no good cheating n*gga make you damaged goods, you don’t want to be a Bitter Betty.

If you continue to be the typical bitter woman that continues to hold onto what someone has done to you 5 years ago, how will you ever be ready for the right one. You have to learn to forgive and move the hell on. Stop dwelling on what could have been. If it was meant to be, it would be.

There are some good men out there. But, the only way you will find him is if you stop being so angry all the time. “My ex cheated on me, so now I’m not doing all the things I did for him with the next.” Do you know how ridiculous that sounds? I’m not trying to be mean but I’m going to tell you what your “friends” failed to tell you.

In order to find happiness in your next relationship, you must find happiness within yourself. If you aren’t happy with yourself, then no man will be able make you happy. So relax, relate, and release the anger you once had. Your good man is coming soon!