When you love someone, you try to meet them halfway on things. The more comfortable you are with Bae, the more open your love will be with the things that turn him/her on. Sometimes you may be comfortable with these things and will fulfill his/her kinkiness. At other times, you may look at Bae with that “All, Hell Nah” face. It is at these times you must decide if Bae’s kink is too much and if he/she should get a pass.
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Giving Bae a pass is essentially giving the Mr. or Mrs. permission to fulfill his/her carnal desire with someone else. And this my friends is a very sticky situation. On one hand you want Bae to be satisfied, but on the other hand, you don’t want Bae experiencing anything sexual with someone else because there is this perceived risk of “infidelity” occurring.
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Realize that whether you give permission or not, it is possible that your significant other will “cheat”. With that being said, you do not have to give a pass. Giving one doesn’t make you “better” or more “mature” than the next. It simply means that you are COMFORTABLE with Bae seeking fulfillment somewhere else.
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Understand that this may be a Pandora’s box you are opening and it is very likely that your boo thang may want to seek this arrangement more frequently, but this is all dependent on communication. Just as there are negative reactions, there could very well be positive reactions as well.
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Many consenting adults enjoy an alternative lifestyle where they either engage in sexual relations with other adults or allow their partners to do so. This type of open lifestyle has been credited with keeping relationships healthy and thriving. Bae may get his/her kink out and leave it just as that.
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The thing is only you and your boo know your relationship. The choice of giving a pass is purely based on comfortableness and what you can accept.
