The “I’m About To” Guy: All Talk, No Action
Nothing is more disappointing than realizing the guy you’re dating is full of empty promises. You know the type: the “Next Summer I’m Finna…” guy. He constantly talks about his goals and aspirations but never takes meaningful steps toward achieving them.
While dreaming big is admirable, there’s a line between ambition and complacency. The “I’m About To” guy is stuck on the sidelines, forever “about to” make his next big move but never actually following through.
Why the “I’m About To” Guy Stays Stuck
The problem with the “I’m About To” guy isn’t his dreams—it’s his lack of action. He blames external factors like the economy, bad timing, or other circumstances for his lack of progress rather than taking ownership of his failures.
Instead of finding genuine motivation, he often surrounds himself with successful people to feel better about himself. However, he doesn’t channel that proximity into his own growth. This cycle of regret and inaction keeps him stagnant.
How to Support (Not Enable) the “I’m About To” Guy
If you have an “I’m About To” guy in your life, yelling at him or pointing out his flaws won’t help. What he needs is direction, encouragement, and possibly a mentor to guide him. Not all “I’m About To” guys are lazy—they may simply lack confidence, resources, or clarity about how to take the first step.
Here’s how to help:
- Encourage Accountability: Help him set small, realistic goals and follow up on his progress.
- Offer Support Without Enabling: Be there for him, but don’t make excuses for his inaction.
- Promote Personal Growth: Suggest books, podcasts, or courses that align with his aspirations.
- Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate even the smallest steps he takes toward his goals.
Why It’s Important to Address the Issue
Being in a relationship with someone who consistently fails to take action can lead to frustration and resentment. It’s essential to address the issue early and encourage positive change—both for his personal growth and the health of your relationship.
Remember, not every “I’m About To” guy will stay that way forever. With the right guidance and determination, he can move from empty promises to meaningful action.
