According to fairy tales, first comes love, then comes marriage, insert a couple of kids and boom; happily ever after.
In the real world, what starts off as a beautiful journey between two people can quickly turn into an unexpected adventure or even a nightmare. The wide-eyed optimism and enthusiasm for your relationship can fizzle over time, especially when your reality fails to live up to your expectations. Long before people get to a place of firmly deciding upon separation or divorce, they try to keep it
together for the sake of the kids, but why?
We tend to convince ourselves that the children are committed to our togetherness and that’s completely false. Children thrive in households where the adults are genuinely happy. If your relationship has turned toxic, filled with constant arguing or discontent, be clear that the kids have picked up on it. So, if you aren’t really hiding anything from them, then why are you delaying the inevitable?
Often, when people say they are staying for the kids, they truly aren’t. They are only using this phrase as an excuse to justify complacency, fear of loneliness, failure or the dread of starting over. Whatever the reason, if you want to consider the kids then you should try being honest with yourself. Make a commitment to identify your own issues and work on resolving them. Your kids are never as fragile as you think and can be resilient beyond comprehension.
