Have you wanted to slide into your crush’s DM for a while but didn’t quite know how? Or maybe you’re mutuals with someone you’d like to network with? Here are a few things to consider.
According to a 2018 study published in Science Advances, online dating has become the third most common way that romantic partners meet. Social media apps such as Facebook and Instagram are being used by many as dating apps of sorts these days. While there is no swipe left or swipe right component, following people you are interested in getting to know is the first step in shooting your shot. However, when getting ready to slide into their DM, you should first determine whether they are single. This can be accomplished by researching their page from top to bottom for any relationship clues. Some people choose to keep their romantic partners offline, so it’s likely this search may yield no results, but it’s worth a try.
Another practice when sliding into the DMs is being polite. Refrain from vulgar language, and remember that this individual is likely unfamiliar with your sense of humor. Vile jokes, salacious photos, and virtually anything else that you wouldn’t say in person are not the way to go. Treat the one you’re interested in as if you were approaching them in person.
Not every DM is romantic, with some people using social media to message potential professional contacts. What was once seen as an amateurish means of getting in touch with someone for work gigs, with social media apps connecting people from all walks of life, has become a great tool to help build possible business contacts. While professional networking sites such as LinkedIn are much more catered to these interactions, if Instagram is where you introduce yourself to a potential work lead, be sure to conduct yourself with the same workplace demeanor. A proper introduction is necessary even in this casual means of communicating.
Ultimately, mastering the art of sliding into DMs, whether for business or pleasure, hinges on authenticity, respect, and timing—approach with genuine intent and thoughtful communication, and you’ll open doors to meaningful connections and opportunities.
