Baller Vs, Broke Man: The Break Down By: @milagreee

An article was posted a while ago in reference to how to catch a baller. Now, the comments this article got were pretty negative and I feel the need to clarify what exactly separates a man with money to a man lacking in that area.

When asked what kind of man I want to marry, my initial reaction ( I’m a hopeless romantic) is to say I just want to fall in love. Now, I am also extremely realistic and I know that love is not enough. Staying in love is hard work and love doesn’t pay the bills. So my new answer to this question goes as follows, I want a man who is ambitious, hard working, responsible, discipline, driven,with standards.

Well what about if that man has no money? What if that man is broke? The answer to these questions is that a man who has or processes these qualities is never broke. An ambitious man is such a turn on because he is always looking for more, he wants to be somebody, he wants to provide for his family, even extended family.

A responsible man doesn’t go to the strip club and throw his hard earned money away at the strippers. He might go every once in a while but this man is a planner so if he has some money to blow and that’s what he chooses to do than that’s what he chooses to do. I don’t think there is anything wrong with dating someone who has a good head on their shoulders and who is ambitious and wants to be on top of the world.

Dating a broke man is like dating a baby, dating someone who doesn’t have any ambition or drive. There are gender roles and a man that comes into a relationship with their hands open, and wanting his woman to support him is taking on the role of a child, not a man. If you have to continuously fill the role of the man how will you ever fulfill your role as a woman? At this point, intimacy goes out the window. 

Men need to understand what it takes to be a beautiful woman that takes care of herself. Men always say that they love a woman that takes care of herself and values herself. The woman that is the sole provider for this man might as well expect her broke stay at home man to get his nails done and look pretty. When a woman has to work to support their family, what makes this man think that she has or wants to sleep with him? Shes exhausted, shes tired. She has to take care of her child (man) and her actual children as well, she has to work, maintain her beauty (waxes,nails, eyebrows on fleek,skin) and now she has to come home to some dude who has done nothing all day? Give me a break. 

The man I want to marry is ambitious, goal oriented, disciplined, responsible, ect. Now this might be the same thing as dating a man who is considered a “baller” but the reasons for wanting to be with such a man is not for the money, its for the dedication and discipline that this man has to SAVE his money, to be well calculated and to make me feel like a woman. To let me fulfill my role as a woman. To make me want to cook, clean and make sure he is satisfied. There is no woman in her right mind that wants to care of a man who ultimately acts like a child. Children don’t know how to save money, children throw money away and buy new Jordans instead of food for the fridge. How can you be attracted to this bum as* man?

So I want to add  Ambitious as a sought after quality because with all those character traits, this man is never broke and he allows you to be a woman. It isn’t about the money, its about the fact that a person with these attributes is never broke.