I am a firm believer that aside from sex, there are other ways that people can be unfaithful. It is possible for you to be unfaithful in your relationship, without ever taking your pants off. The most common type of affair is the “just sex” affair. This type of affair has a short life span due to the intensity of the start and the strong decline of passion that is due arise once the affair has been going on for a while.
An emotional affair however, isn’t so cut and dry. This affair is extremely damaging as it places you in an intense relationship with someone else outside of your relationship. The emotional hold this person might have on you could be extremely hard to escape from. This type of affair is called emotional infidelity. There are certain connections you might be able to make with this “emotional boyfriend” that you might not be making with your real significant other. This significant other has no way of making these connections with you, if you are already meeting those needs else where.
Lets compare this to a sexual affair. A man is getting sex else where, and the sex with his significant other steadily but surely starts to decline. He is getting these needs met by someone else. Same thing goes for someone who has an emotional connection with a person outside of their relationship, the need to connect with someone is being met, so the desire to connect with their boyfriend is no longer wanted.
I am by no means down playing the actual physical affair, it is awful and truly damaging. An emotional affair however, is not just sex. The bottom line is that sex without meaning is just sex. Anyone can have sex at any moment but what really makes a relationship healthy and lasting is the ability to connect on a more profound level, it is the ability to connect emotionally. Re-building what was emotional fidelity can be extremely difficult and might not even be possible for some.
I believe that seeking an emotional connection with someone outside of your relationship is sure to end extremely badly. It is not always just the physical affair that damages a committed relationship. Being emotionally connected to someone else, aside from your significant other can be just as or even more damaging to your relationship.
