Ballerific Relationships: Soul Ties

Does sex really determine the outcome of a relationship? In the past few years, my best friendships, and even relationships, were with men who I decided to “wait” with. I  decided to cut back  on sex because of soul ties. A person can leave you with more baggage than expected and it may be even harder to let them go.   Someone can walk into your life with intentions to hurt you, disrupt your peace, and  leave you broken and confused and you wouldn’t even know it.

When I refer to “soul ties”, I’m referring to that spiritual connection that happens when one is intimate with another. I don’t look at sex as just a physical form of intimacy. In actuality, it’s an act where spirits connect and one soul is deposited into another. Believe it or not, we create invisible bonds with each person that we are romantically involved with.

Your body has most of its own resources such as blood, oxygen, and spirit. Now imagine what happens when you let a person enter your temple. Those natural resources now become contaminated with whatever you invite it. Yes, whenever you are intimate with someone, they actually deposit parts of who they are inside of you. You never know who they are, or if they have overcame a particular obstacle, fears, and insecurities. Sometimes this hold is strengthened by a sexual connection or desire that leaves you longing for this other person.

Dating should consist of random dates and experiences shared between two people.  You have to weed them out folks.There may be kissing, hugs, hand-holding, and other small gestures, but the goal is to find out who this person is without the grand finale. I don’t want to sound like I just dropped out of the 50’s, but sex is the icing on the cake, not the cake. There’s so much more to a person than what physically attracts us.

Be clear not to believe everything that you  hear or see, let them show you who they are by their actions, and not just words.Over the years, I realized that it’s important for me to love the spirit. I like to connect with people on a mental level so it’s important to get there without the clutter of social media, sex, and  other issues.

Learn to love what you cannot feel, but what you can see. Appreciate everything a person has to offer without sex and once a commitment is made, you can move to the next level. Practice Abstinence until you are ready to make a spiritual connection with the opposite sex. Laugh often and be sure to indulge in similar interests. It will make the ride more enjoyable.