This is always a touchy subject, but it’s one that comes up more than people want to admit. You’re pregnant, and the baller in your life wants you to end the pregnancy. What do you do?
Whether you’re the wife or the woman on the side, it’s your body, but he will say it’s his money. Let’s look at it from both sides.
Hers: You find out you’re pregnant. At first you’re scared, because you know your life is about to change, but then you start to see it as a blessing. He doesn’t. Maybe he doesn’t want more kids, doesn’t want his wife to find out or just doesn’t want to be a family man. Whatever the reason, he asks you to end it and even offers to pay. You don’t want to, and you even offer to keep your distance so it won’t disrupt his life. When you refuse, he cuts you off. And if you ever go after him for child support, he’ll say you trapped him. Is it your fault he didn’t want to be a father?
His: You made it clear from the beginning that you didn’t want kids. You told her you weren’t in a place financially, that you were enjoying being single and that you aren’t the father type. If she chose to have the baby anyway, why should you be responsible for a decision you never agreed to?
Here’s the reality. The decision to keep a pregnancy is ultimately hers to make. And legally, once the child is here, the child has a right to be supported by both parents, no matter how either one feels about it. So the real conversation has to happen before anybody gets pregnant. If you know you don’t want children, protect yourself and be honest with the person you’re with. If you’re with a man who has made it clear he doesn’t want kids, take him at his word.
Where do you stand?
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