5 Signs You’re Not Ready To Date

Sometimes we just need to be alone. They say the best relationship you can have is the one with yourself. Let’s face it, dating is hard and it’s even harder if you’re not where you need to be as a person.

But societal pressures can make us feel like we need to be with someone, but luckily, that’s far from the truth. It takes a lot of self-awareness to know when you’re not in a position to be with someone. But sometimes, the signs aren’t as obvious as others. Here are a few signs that you’re just not ready to be in a relationship

You Don’t Want to Be.

As simple as it sounds, sometimes people find themselves in a relationship even though they don’t want to be. Regardless if it’s because they don’t want to be alone, don’t know how to be alone, or don’t know how to leave, it’s doing the other person no justice by being in a relationship if the other person doesn’t want to be in it. For one, it’s likely the person isn’t giving 100% effort, and that too isn’t fair.

Too much catches your attention.

Let’s face it, there’s a lot of options out there. Billions of them. Like the saying goes there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Whether you believe in monogamy or not, if you know you’re playing the field and sorting through your options it’s probably best to be alone and disclose this to those you become involved with so there’s no mixed signals.

You Don’t Like to Compromise.

You may be in your for-self era and that is ok. If you’re going through a phase where life is all about you and you don’t want to live on someone else’s terms or consider their feelings, then it’s probably best to sit back until you’re willing to take someone else into account.

Your Focus is On Other Things.

Sometimes relationships hold us back. You may want to move across the world or start a company. It’s hard to prioritize both your dreams and a relationship. Notably, not impossible but challenging, which may be the reason people say to settle down when you get older and explore while you’re young.

You’re not happy with the person you are.

Self-work is very important. One of the worst things we can do is enter a relationship not being our healthiest self. A person’s self-esteem and mental state are very important when they are in a relationship because when it’s not insecurities and negativity can come into play.