BallerAlert.com Talks Single Ladies & Cheaters With Pilar Sanders

If you’re like me, VH1’s new sitcom “Single Ladies” has become a guilty pleasure of yours. Compared slightly to “Girlfriends” the show follows three friends as they deal with different aspects of their relationship drama. Everything that can happen in a relationship (good and bad, but mostly bad) seems to happen to these ladies. We sat down with one of the stars of the show, Pilar Sanders. You may remember Pilar from Football Wives as well as our feature on here HERE. Now get to know Pilar on a more personal level. 

BA: How do you feel about your portrayal on Football Wives? Do you sympathize for other reality TV stars?

PS: The reality show I signed onto unfortunately wasn’t my reality and reflected extremly little to none of my life. I sympathize with fellow reality stars to a point because of the lack of control we have in terms of how our lives are edited and depicted on screen, having your life sliced into pieces for others to watch, enjoy (or not) and basically judge is always a bit jolting.

BA: Do you identify with any of your Basketball Wives counterparts?

PS: I, like many woman from all walks of life can identify with the desire for love, the struggle between Relationships and the difficulty in balancing Family, and Business.

BA: You’ve now joined the cast of “Single Ladies” along with Stacey Dash and Lisa Raye, which airs on VH1. For those who haven’t caught the show, can you tell us about your character? 

PS: My character is Jennifer who is the Mayor of Atlanta’s wife played by Common. She’s been very supportive of her husband and his career and is a very classy woman. However, Jennifer makes no excuses for her position in life and wastes no time getting to the heart of the matter.

 

BA: Which do you like better: Reality TV or scripted television? 

PS: It’s a catch 22 between scripted and reality. They both have their highs and lows. I do enjoy both because I don’t mind the transparency, either way, there is a great freedom of not being afraid to be me or to explore lives of other characters for that matter. Reality is all me and what I have to offer, Love it or hate it technically is “my life” there on a stage to be judged. It’s unprotected and very vulnerable. Scripted TV allows me to walk in someone else’s shoes for moments in time and to truly experience their life. Becoming a character is a wonderful and fun way to experiment with human behavior.

BA: We recently interviewed Jackie Christie (Doug Christie’s wife) who talked about the extremes that she went through to make sure her man doesn’t cheat (ie: following behind the tour bus), how do you fight groupies off of your baller? 

PS: I don’t fight off ‘groupies’ because my husband is and should be man enough to do that. If not then “Houston we have a Problem”. I wouldn’t waste my life chasing after a man, digging, sifting or searching through his things. If you ever feel the NEED to do that, then you don’t need to be with that person. Getting to the point where someone tries to control someone like that shows that there are other problems that really should be brought to the forefront and addressed ie: insecurity, low self esteem, fear, fear of abandonment, etc.. If you don’t place yourself in the position to entertain groupies then they wouldn’t have a chance to try their hand.