Ballerific Relationships – The Narcissist. By: @milagreee

Narcissistic men and women are VERY real and definitely not a joke by any means. Narcissistic personality disorder is defined as a condition in which people have an excessive sense of self‑importance, an extreme preoccupation with themselves, and lack of empathy for others.

Narcissism is a very real personality disorder. When it comes to dating, it’s extremely difficult to date someone who is suffering from this disorder. It is vital that you’re able to distinguish these people and run from them because it’ll preserve your self esteem down the line.

When starting a relationship with a narcissist, it is difficult to know because they are extremely charming and flattering. They tell you everything you want to hear so that later on, they’re able to take the “Mr. Hyde” mask off and put the “Dr. Jekyll” back on. They are able to swoon you, and rightfully so because they are charming, good looking and have what seems like a great personality.

The narcissist will tell you all about ALL the other females that are chasing after him, because he’s an eligible bachelor. This is when the mind games start. He wants you to believe that he is above you and you’re lucky to have him. This will play a huge role later on when he starts to tear your mind and heart out.

When does he show his true self? When you start to trust him. When you start to fall for him. That’s when he’s at his most powerful. When he has you under his grasp and he knows it.

The narcissist will not be able to tolerate criticism, they cannot.They are perfect. Why don’t you see that? The worst part is they don’t feel as though they are perfect, they just display the “perfect person” outwardly to convince others of just how phenomenal they are. On the inside, they are emotionally screwed up. They are insecure and feel it strongly. They are constantly trying to hide this.

They will go out of their way to flirt with others in front of you just to remind you that other people still want him and you should be so lucky to have him.

They also won’t be able to admit when they are at fault. They don’t seem to see when they actually are at fault. As their partner, you aren’t allowed to tell them how you feel if how you feel happens to critique anything about them.

The narcissist loves to talk about himself. Blah blah blah. He wants to convince you of how great he is. He will talk for hours about himself but lacks the normal curiosity of a man trying to pursue a woman. He won’t ask you much and his questions will seem forced and rehearsed. When he is comforting you, it will not seem genuine because it isn’t. They lack empathy for others. That is truly terrifying.

It is hell on earth to be in a relationship with this abusive person, for both men and women. The only way to be safe from this scary person is to leave and never look back. The narcissist is damaging to your core and is considered a serious abuser.